When two people have a child together and the relationship fails, is it still the father of the child's responsibility to provide a stable living environment for his ex b/c his kid lives with her? I feel these type of situations open the door for men to be exploited financially and emotionally. The man's responsibility should be a healthy contribution towards feeding, clothing, and sheltering his child. I feel that anything beyond that benefits the undeserving partner. Too many times have I've seen women use opportunities like such to feed their materialistic, and most of the time, self desires. Same thing goes for men on the opposite side of the table. It's a real thin line between caring enough to help support the contributing parent of your child and just straight being used. Be careful of who you sleep and share DNA with. Children aren't gambling chips to be used in the game of love. Plan for parenthood. Don't believe the hype of "I want to have your baby," or "Girl lets make a baby." Words don't equal the action of taking care of a living, breathing responsibility that has feelings, emotions, learns, and soaks in everything he/she sees and hears from the experience of a relationship gone sour. I guess when dealing with complicated circumstances we have to learn to honestly respect other parties involved without letting our personal feelings toward the other party, whether good or bad, influence the atmosphere we create for making decisions of provision. Remember that baggage definitely sways our thinking, and there's no hell like a woman scorned. Until next time. One love, one heart. -B.B.
I hear what you're saying. I would first like to say when my child's father and I decided to split. I in no way shape or form wanted him to provide a stable living situation for myself. Did I was him to take care of a child that he helped make? Absolutely, but in taking care of her sometimes it does benefit in your words the undeserving partner. If Kolby is who I take care of all the time, when that money comes it's mine. Whether I use it for groceries, she needs to eat too, the gas bill, cause she needs to stay warm, gas, becaue I have to drop her off to various places, it all is benefiting Kolby. Sometimes the father/mother doesn't pay enough child support. But that's neither here nor there. Coming from a mother who is not married to her child's father, how about we just wait around for our King/Queen to have sex. I learned the hard way, and although blissfully happy with my husband, I still pay for having a child out of wedlock. Everyone doesn't have to learn the hardway.
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